How Children Become People-Pleasers

How Children Become People-Pleasers

People-pleasing in children often gets missed because it looks like kindness, maturity, or “good behavior.” But sometimes the child who is easy, helpful, and always checking on everyone else has learned to quiet their own needs in order to stay connected. This is not manipulation or weakness. It is often a protective nervous system response — and with the right support, the pattern can begin to change.

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What Is Emotional Regulation? Hint: It Does Not Mean Calm
Parent Behavior, All About Emotions Dylan Spradlin Parent Behavior, All About Emotions Dylan Spradlin

What Is Emotional Regulation? Hint: It Does Not Mean Calm

You may have heard the big buzz about being emotionally regulated.

About being “calm.”

And recently, a fantastic book came out by Eli Harwood (aka the Attachment Nerd) called Raising Securely Attached Kids where she even states in the glossary of terms right in front that regulated means calm and children need caregivers who are calm.

But that’s not my understanding.

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