Restoring Connection for Anxious, Explosive Kids & Teens in Washington and Montana
Helping anxious and explosive children find calm and connection from the comfort of home.
You need to understand for behavior to shift.
Maybe your child screams at you.
You try to remain calm like you are supposed to. You try the scripts, the breathing, the consequences, the gentle voice. But eventually you break and yell back—and that is what finally gets them to stop.
Then the guilt hits.
Or maybe bedtime has become the battleground. Your baby is crying constantly, and you and your partner are exhausted and not always on the same page about what they need. Or your eight-year-old cannot make it through the night in their own room, and you find yourself wondering: Will they still be struggling with this in three years? In five?
However old your child is, they are struggling now. And so are you.
Maybe there has always been something about your child’s behavior that did not fit neatly into the parenting books. Or maybe something happened that upended the safety your family once relied on: a move, a death, a divorce, a frightening experience, or a disclosure that changed things.
Maybe you and your baby had a rough start. Maybe adoption, birth trauma, feeding struggles, separation, or loss has left your family still trying to find solid ground.
Behavior is communication. Before it can shift, it needs to be understood.
You’ve tried everything, and nothing is working anymore.
You’ve tried everything. I get it.
And consistency is elusive.
Your neighbor swears by the one podcast that changed everything for her. Your therapist recommends an influencer who wrote the best book. Your mother-in-law will not stop criticizing.
Meanwhile, you are crying into a towel in the bathroom while Paw Patrol plays in the next room, hoping you are not failing as a mother.
You’re ready for something different…
Not another script that doesn’t fit.
Not more shame dressed up as advice.
Not another system asking you or your child to become easier to manage.
You’re in the right place.
And because this is a virtual practice, you don't have to pack up your family, fight traffic, or drive miles to a clinical office to get this support. At Elowen, we bring this specialized, deep relational support right into the comfort and safety of your own home anywhere in Washington and Montana.
If you are wondering how this level of connection happens behind a screen:
it is not what you think.
I do not expect an anxious or explosive child to sit still and stare at a video call. And I don't expect a stressed new parent to leave the house. My virtual sessions are highly active, collaborative, and tailored to the nervous system. By blending online play therapy, movement, and everyday household items, I meet your child or teen exactly where they feel most secure.
I do not expect an anxious or explosive child to sit still and stare at a video call. And I don't expect a stressed new parent to leave the house. My virtual sessions are highly active, collaborative, and tailored to the nervous system. By blending online play therapy, movement, and everyday household items, I meet your child or teen exactly where they feel most secure.
You are not lost. You have been taught to ignore your own map.
At Elowen, we slow things down and listen differently — to the behavior, the anxiety, the shutdown, the grief, the sensory overwhelm, the big feelings, and the nervous system underneath it all. For children, this may happen through play, movement, art, imagination, or metaphor. For teens and parents, it may happen through conversation, humor, body awareness, repair, and finally having room to tell the truth.
The goal is not to make you or your child more convenient. The goal is more safety, more choice, and more connection with who you actually are.
Hi, I’m Dylan, and I can help.
You may have read the books—I don’t know many parents who have time, but if you did, I have a medal for you—followed the advice as best you could, tried therapy before with therapists who nodded, smiled, and said you were doing great, made the charts (I hate them), listened to the podcasts, and still felt like something deeper was not being understood.
Maybe you know what is happening and why the old way is not working, but you are not sure what to do instead.
Therapy with me is relational, play-based, neuro-affirming, nervous-system-informed, and deeply human. You can look away, move, draw, walk, fidget, cry, swear a little if needed, or show up with your camera off.
Together, we’ll slow it all down and make sense of what your nervous system has been carrying. You do not need to know exactly what that means—it is okay, I do.
Then we begin finding your way back to yourself and your child, while helping your child find their way back to themselves, too.
Specialties
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Infants
For new families navigating birth, bonding, adoption, feeding stress, excessive crying, sleep disruption, postpartum overwhelm, or the tender work of early attachment.
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Children
For sensitive, intense, anxious, neurodivergent, grieving, or big-feeling children who communicate through play, behavior, movement, imagination, and metaphor — with parent support woven in.
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Teens
For teens who are overwhelmed, anxious, masking, shut down, grieving, neurodivergent, intense, or tired of being misunderstood — with parent support that respects their growing autonomy.
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How Therapy Works Here
Therapy at Elowen is relational, neurodivergent-affirming, and nervous-system-informed. I draw from NARM™, Synergetic Play Therapy™, prenatal and perinatal psychology, attachment, and relational neuroscience.
We slow things down, make sense of what is happening underneath the behavior, and build more safety, connection, and choice from the inside out.
With me, you’re receiving not just the insights that come from decades of experience and continued education, but also the steadiness, honesty, and compassion that my clients return for.
Ready to get
started?
1.Schedule a consultation
Start by scheduling a free virtual consultation.
2. We talk through what you’re looking for
Consultations are virtual and usually last about 20–30 minutes. You’ll have the chance to share a little about what’s bringing you here, what kind of support you’re looking for, and what you hope might feel different. I’ll also share more about how I work and answer any questions you have.
3. If it feels like a good fit, we move forward
If we decide it’s a good fit, we’ll look at the schedule and choose a time to begin. I’ll send intake paperwork and consent forms for you to complete before your first session.
